Music to Write By:
Timber Timbre – Black Water


Since being laid off in May, I’ve had a fair amount of time to think about things. Lots of things. Things like cooking and cleaning and career and what it means to be in your 30s. It seems like age is such a big deal – a guidepost to re-evaluate how you’re doing.

Over the weekend my husband and I travelled to Kingston to visit a good friend. After a glass of wine, we got on the topic of being in your 30s. How everything seems to readjust a little. Mostly we complained how much it sucked to only be able to eat 1200 calories (we’re both short), and how clothes start to look and fit differently. It brought up something I’ve been thinking about for a while: Why am I so afraid of being 30?

It seems that when we hit 30, we take a moment to look at what we’ve achieved and where we’ve come. Some think “I thought I would be more ahead at (said age)”. If we really think about it, this fear of what we haven’t achieved is probably only one or two parts of our lives. For me, it’s career. I had “fame eyes” in my 20s, wanting to move to LA and write and have my sitcoms made and all that jazz. And I get a little panicky when I think about how that hasn’t happened yet.

Then I think about the dreams that I have I have achieved:

  • Married my best friend and am surrounded by friends and family that are an amazing positive force
  • Had my writing published
  • Travelled to different countries
  • Lived in small towns, big towns, and now I’m a home owner

Those are just a few, and all very awesome.

I’ve finally come to the conclusion there is no such thing as a supposed “time limit” to achieve goals. When you feel like, “I’ve wasted time and I’m running out of time to do what I want”, cut yourself some slack and be nicer to yourself.


You’ve probably done more and seen more than you think. The best gift you can give yourself is to stop and enjoy the right here, right now.